Writing Sex Scenes - From Brainstorm to Bedchamber
Writing a great sex scene takes more than just an active imagination—it requires an intimate connection with the characters, an understanding of their desires, and an awareness of what makes the moment feel both natural and electrifying.
Some authors swear by setting the mood with music, candles, or even a glass of wine.
Others map out every detail beforehand, ensuring each moment builds the tension perfectly.
Then there are those who throw planning out the window and let their characters take the lead, allowing the seduction to unfold organically.
For me, writing a sex scene isn’t just about chemistry or passion—it’s about who the characters are and how this moment will change them.
The approach I take depends entirely on the female lead. Her personality, her confidence (or lack thereof), and her emotional journey all influence how I craft the scene.
Which brings me to Billionaire’s Christmas Surprise—a book that required a unique approach for one very special reason.
Billionaire’s Christmas Surprise – Why The Sex Scene Had to Be Different
Now, you’re probably wondering—Christmas and hot sex? What do those have to do with each other? Great question!
The magic of this story came from the heroine’s innocence—not just in experience, but in self-perception.
While all my heroines have an air of innocence in different ways, this character stood out. Unlike my other female leads, who were often glamorous, sexy, or effortlessly confident, she was cute, funny, vibrant—but never considered the “hot girl.”
This was a plain Jane gets her prince romance, and that meant writing their first intimate moment differently. She had spent her life believing she was ordinary.
But in his eyes? She was extraordinary. The challenge was ensuring that realization hit at just the right moment.
Setting the Scene – A Subtle Seduction
Hints of her hidden beauty were woven throughout the narrative.
For example, she wore beautiful lingerie beneath her outfit—but not by choice. She was practical, modest, and never the type to splurge on sexy lingerie—but by sheer coincidence, she happened to have it.
Then came the whirlwind wedding. The billionaire hero, completely enchanted, proposed out of nowhere in a grand, public setting.
There was no time to prepare—before she knew it, they were at a justice of the peace, tying the knot on the spot.
And suddenly, it was their wedding night.
She hadn’t anticipated it, but underneath her breathtaking dress, she was already wearing the most stunning lingerie imaginable.
That moment was pivotal. Standing in front of the mirror, freshly married to a man who adored her, she saw herself differently. She wasn’t just “plain” anymore. In the reflection, she saw herself through his eyes—beautiful, desirable, breathtaking.
Oh, and then there was the small (major!) factor of her petite, five-foot frame compared to his towering, muscled physique.
As a virgin, she had one pressing question: just how was this supposed to work?!
Where I Actually Wrote the Scene—The Unexpected Inspiration
So now you’re wondering—how did I actually write it?
Did I light incense? No.
Did I surround myself with candles? No.
Did I play love songs in the background? Nope.
Believe it or not, I wrote this sex scene… in Central Park.
Here’s how it happened:
After an exercise class, I was walking home, taking my usual route down Central Park West.
To my left was The Plaza Hotel, to my right, the sprawling park. The scene was playing in my head, unfolding like a movie—and I couldn’t go home yet.
Why? Because I dictate my books aloud.
And let’s be honest—dictating an explicit, intimate sex scene as you stride into your in your apartment building lobby
—where neighbors, employees, and doormen will overhear—is a little awkward.
Instead, I wandered deep into the park, where only the occasional carriage driver or pedicab biker might overhear me muttering passionate dialogue.
The setting was far from candlelit romance, but once the scene started flowing, nothing else mattered.
Would soft lighting and love songs have made it even steamier? Maybe.
But crafting this heroine’s first-time experience wasn’t about setting the perfect mood for myself—it was about stepping into her world and seeing the moment through her eyes.
Because, in the end, that’s what makes a sex scene truly unforgettable.
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