What Women Fantasize About: Untold Desires

What do women think about when their minds wander during intimate times?

Do their thoughts drift to stolen glances, whispered promises, or forbidden passions?

Perhaps they imagine a fleeting connection, a stranger who lingers on their mind …

… or a daring scenario they wouldn’t dare speak aloud.

Recently, a fascinating cultural shift has brought these questions into focus.

 From films to books, women’s fantasies—once hidden in secrecy—are now a topic of curiosity and conversation.

Even the New York Times explored this in its coverage of the Nicole Kidman film Baby Girl.

This steamy story follows a woman’s exploration of her own carnal desires.

After seeing the movie, many women gathered to share long-hidden desires and express their own sexual repression for the first time.

In doing so, many women realized they weren’t alone in their fantasies.

Their most repressed sexual desires, their forbidden lustful thoughts, were suddenly “ok.”

Normal, even.

Baby Girl created a conversation point for the topic of women’s fantasies.

With the major question being:

What do women fantasize about?

And why are these fantasies so vital?

Why Fantasies Matter

Fantasies are deeply personal—and strikingly universal.

They rarely reflect what’s practical or achievable and often center on the intangible, the forbidden, or the unattainable.

A stranger’s glance that lingers too long.

A moment that sparks curiosity but never evolves, remaining locked away in private thoughts.

For women, fantasies aren’t just about desire; they’re about self-discovery.

They provide the freedom to explore feelings and longings unconstrained by real-world rules.

Films like Baby Girl prove that fantasies aren’t bound by circumstance.

Whether shared openly or kept secret, fantasies remind us that our inner worlds are textured, vibrant, and still alive with possibilities.

When Fantasies Spark Stories

Fiction plays beautifully into this space.

It offers a safe outlet for women to imagine themselves in thrilling scenarios, free from judgment.

My new book, Claimed, gives readers just that …

…An exploration of tension, longing, and the delicious ache of unspoken desires.

Take Pixie, the lead character.

Young and naive, she secretly fantasizes about forbidden Alexander, even after the steam room incident.

She had entered what she assumed to be an empty steam room, only to find the secret object of his desires standing there, unapologetically bare, framed by clouds of mist.

She retreats, her cheeks flushed, apologizing while trying not to stare too long.

But it’s too late—he’s a living Adonis, his powerful presence etched in her mind.

Alone in her room, his memory replays in her mind.

That forbidden thrill.

A magnetic pull.

Her fantasies become a space where she can freely play.

Indulging in taboo desires she doesn’t dare voice aloud.